Sometimes, life throws you a curveball that makes you stop and think. That happened to me recently, and it got me reflecting.
Someone told me a few days ago that we weren’t serving them the way they expected. Just one person. It might not reflect how everyone feels, but it hit me hard because it brought up a pattern I’ve seen before, where people expect you to hand them the answers, the growth, the motivation.
It’s the same when I ask a client, “What would you like to work on today?” and they respond with: “You’re the coach, you tell me.” Seriously? It’s your journey. I’m here to guide, challenge, and support you — but I can’t do the work for you.
I have no problem meeting people where they are. I’m happy to start from the basics if needed, I’ll support you as you find your feet, and I’ll cheer you on every step of the way. But the spark — that drive — it has to come from you. I can’t light that fire for you.
And honestly, I’m done.
I’m done with people sitting back, waiting for someone else to feed them, support them, or save them. It’s draining. It’s exhausting. I’m done dragging people along who aren’t willing to step up. My energy is finite, and I’m choosing to focus it on those who are ready to take responsibility for their growth. Those who understand that success is built from within.
If you’re not investing in yourself, if you’re not working on your mindset, and if you’re not growing — that’s on you. Nobody else.
It’s not about having money or opportunities. It’s about mindset. It’s about moving out of victimhood and stepping into discomfort — facing the unknown, the uncertain, and the uncomfortable. It’s about acknowledging where you are, accepting that change is needed, and taking action — even if you’re unsure how it will all unfold.
Someone recently put it like this: it’s like paying for a gym membership and then complaining you’re not getting fit. Just paying the fee doesn’t do the work for you. You actually have to show up, do the work, and push through the discomfort. Personal growth works the same way. Don’t expect your employer, your coach, or anyone else to take full responsibility for your development. If you’re given an opportunity, great — grab it and run with it. But at the end of the day, YOU have to put in the effort.
And yes, asking for help is important. It takes courage and honesty to reach out when you need it. But expecting someone to swoop in and fix everything for you? That’s not how life works.
You’ve got to:
- Get off the couch
- Take the first step
- Put in the effort
- Keep going, even when it gets tough
Nobody else can do it for you. No one else is responsible for your growth or your future.
If you’re not willing to take responsibility for your own journey, you’ll get left behind. The world is changing faster than ever, and if you don’t adapt — if you don’t develop the skills and mindset for the future — you’re in for a harsh reality check.
Monika Iuel nailed it when she said,
“We need to be solving for the future rather than recovering from the past.”
She was talking about the future of tourism in South Africa, but that message applies to all of us. Stop focusing on what could have been, what should have been, or what might have been. Start preparing for what’s next.
Step up.
Only you can make that choice. Only you can take the action — even if it’s a small, shaky step at first.
So, get up. Get moving. Do it for you — because no one else will.
Stop waiting for someone to hand you the answers. Stop blaming your circumstances, your boss, your past, or anyone else. Own your growth. Take responsibility. Commit to doing the work, even when it’s tough, even when you don’t feel like it.
If you want more, do more. Simple as that. You can either make excuses or make progress.
The choice is yours.
Ready to take ownership of your future? Let’s talk. Book your free discovery call with me today and let’s figure out how to get you moving forward—no more excuses.
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