Putting Yourself First: Why bother?

In the midst of juggling clients, business, and family, where do YOU fit in?

It’s a question we often overlook as we get swept up in the whirlwind of daily life.

But it’s time to pause and ask: when was the last time you took a moment for yourself?

Think about it. How often do we put ourselves last, sacrificing our own well-being for the sake of work or others? I’ve seen it time and again—people pouring all their energy into their jobs, only to come home exhausted and irritable, snapping at their loved ones without realizing it.

It’s a tough spot to be in, isn’t it? Feeling like you’re constantly running on empty, trying to meet everyone else’s expectations while neglecting your own needs. And yet, so many of us find ourselves trapped in this cycle, unable to break free.

I know you don’t want to hear it but really it doesn’t have to be this way. You have the power to change your circumstances, to prioritize your own mental, emotional, and physical health.

I’ve been there myself, caught up in the hustle and bustle of work, until one day my husband told me he didn’t recognize the person I’d become. It was a wake-up call—a reminder that I needed to take a step back and re-evaluate my priorities.

I know I’m not alone. I’ve heard countless stories from others who have experienced similar struggles—people who have pushed themselves to the brink, only to realize too late the toll it was taking on their well-being and even their health.

But the good news is, it’s never too late to make a change. It starts with taking that first step—whether it’s reaching out for help, setting boundaries, or simply giving yourself permission to take a break.

How, you might ask? Here are some things to think about to help you get started.

1. 1. Set Boundaries: Be honest with yourself about your limits and priorities. Decide what you are willing to accept and what you’re not. Oh and by the way, it’s okay to say no.
   2. Schedule “Me Time”: Block out time in your calendar for self-care activities, treating this time as non-negotiable. You wouldn’t not show up for a meeting, so don’t chicken out on time for yourself either! Whether it’s going for a walk, reading a book, or practicing mindfulness, prioritize these moments for yourself.
   3. Reach Out for Support: Ask for help when you need it, no matter how hard it is or what story you’re telling yourself. I’ve heard stories like: “I don’t want to bother that person; It’s too late today; they won’t have time. Don’t let any of these stories convince you to not reach out. Whether it’s talking to a friend, family member, or professional therapist, having someone to lean on can make a significant difference.
   4. Practice Mindfulness: Take a few moments each day to check in with yourself and tune into your thoughts and feelings. Mindfulness practices like deep breathing, meditation, or journaling can help reduce stress and increase self-awareness.
   5. Prioritise Sleep and Nutrition: Ensure you’re getting enough rest and nourishing your body with healthy foods. Many situations feel a lot different when you’ve had good rest or have eaten a meal. Hangry is a real thing! A well-rested mind and body are better equipped to handle stress and make good decisions.

So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, know that you’re not alone. And know that there is hope. With a little compassion and self-care, you can reclaim control over your life and prioritize your own well-being.

Prioritising yourself, giving yourself space to breathe, and allowing yourself time to level up, isn’t something that you have to remember to add to your to-do list. It’s a critical component of your happiness and living a fulfilling life.

Ready to take the next step but don’t know where to from here? Book a free discovery session here and let’s work together to find what works best for you.