Lately, I’ve been hearing from many of you: “I feel so Angry!”
I get it, we all face our own set of challenges, but it’s crazy how many of us are riding the anger train these days.
This got me thinking and diving deep into the anger abyss. What the heck is anger anyway? And why does it have such a hold on us?
Now, I can’t cover every angle in this blog, but I’ve got some thoughts to share:
Anger is a real beast. It’s a complicated and intense emotion characterised by feelings of displeasure, irritation, frustration, or even rage.
Here are some common triggers:
You know those moments when your dreams and desires get blocked or crushed? That frustration can simmer and eventually boil over into anger. Whether it’s unexpected roadblocks, annoying delays, or feeling like life’s treating you unfairly, frustration can ignite the fire within.
2. Threat or injustice:
Feeling threatened or feeling treated unfairly can unleash the fury. When you or someone you care about gets hurt or mistreated, anger becomes a righteous shield, protecting you from further harm and screaming, “Hey, that’s not right!”
3. Hurt or betrayal:
When someone you trust stabs you in the back or lets you down, anger comes knocking. It’s like a guard dog, protecting your heart and saying, “No more of that nonsense!”
Ever feel like you’re stuck in a never-ending loop of powerlessness? That’s enough to make anyone see red. When you feel like your choices are limited or there’s an unfair power dynamic, anger can become your battle cry.
Ah, the sting of unmet expectations. When life fails to deliver what you hoped for, anger can bubble up in response to that crushing disappointment. Relationships, work situations, you name it – unmet expectations can be a real anger trigger.
6. Stress and pressure:
Who needs a pressure cooker when we’ve got stress and pressure cooking us from the inside? High levels of stress can turn up the heat, making us more susceptible to angry outbursts. It’s like our fuse gets shorter and shorter.
7. Emotional or physical pain:
Sometimes, anger serves as a protective shield against pain. When you’re hurting, either physically or emotionally, anger steps in to say, “Enough is enough!” It motivates us to take action or find relief from what’s causing us distress.
Anger is a normal human emotion, but we’ve got to work on it. Unleashing uncontrolled or chronic anger can wreak havoc on our well-being, relationships, and overall happiness. We need to find healthy ways to express and manage it. Life is too short for constant rage.
So what now?
Sometimes, what we think is anger is actually something else entirely. The trick is to find out what it’s all about.
Do you understand what is making you feel angry?
Is it really Anger or is it something else?
When the pressure’s on, I’ve discovered that by understanding what’s really going on beneath the surface, I can tackle the real issue head-on. I’ve learnt (and am still learning) that when my softer habits are under pressure, I need to use my stronger habits to take small steps forward.
Sounds simple, right? Well, here’s the thing…it’s a process. A messy, beautiful, uncomfortable and oh-so-worth-it process.
Sometimes, taking that first step means reaching out for help. And guess what? You’re not alone on this wild journey.
We’ve got the power to conquer anger and bring more joy and peace into our lives.
Ask yourself, what is the smallest possible step I can take to make the situation better, and then DO IT!
If anger’s got you in a headlock or if you just need some guidance, don’t hesitate to book a free Discovery session: https://calendly.com/marildawiegand/discovery-session